- 出版社: Berkley; 1 (1997年8月1日)
- 平装: 304页
- 语种： 英语
- ISBN: 042515775X
- 条形码: 9780425157756
- 商品尺寸: 13 x 2 x 20.3 cm
- 商品重量: 249 g
- ASIN: 042515775X
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Transcending Loss: Understanding the Lifelong Impact of Grief and How to Make It Meaningful (英语) 平装 – 1997年8月1日
Author Davis Prend, A.C.S.W., is a licensed psychotherapist and supervisor at the Center for Marital and Family Therapy in Manhattan. She also has a private practice, and is affiliated with St. Vincent's Hospital where she leads AIDS-related bereavement support groups. A frequent lecturer on the subject of bereavement at schools and professional conferences, she also leads general bereavement support groups at a local church and is an active member of the Association for Death Education and Counseling.
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Most writers stress that grief is not a linear process, with stages that one goes through bing, bing, bing. Anyone who has experienced it knows that it's cyclical, comes in waves, often unexpected. One writer called it a "spiral staircase". However, there is some sort of progression that one follows, just naturally if nothing else. These writers often use a "re" word to describe the end phase, like "resolution," "reintegration," or "recovery".
I like the idea of a "trans" word like "transform" or "transcend" because they suggest the idea, not only of continued life, but continued growth, of using this horrific experience to make yourself even better. Sameet Kumar's excellent "Grieving Mindfully" takes a Buddhist philosophy toward explicitly describing how to make yourself an even better person as you go beyond the grief. It is not the easiest book to read, however.
This book is much easier to follow and, I think, has an implicitly Buddhist slant, though she never mentions it specifically.
She describes five phases that one goes through from Shock and Disorganization to Transcendence.
The most valuable part of the book to me is the discussion of what she calls the "SOAR" model toward Transcendence. She describes four paths that one can follow and recommends trying one or all of them. The paths are Spirituality, Outreach, Attitude, and Reinvestment. Each of these is discussed in detail with examples of individuals who have taken these paths.
In the last part is an excellent discussion of Roadblocks and Detours and how to negotiate them.
While it's not the first book that one ought to read in working through grief, at some point I think most people would really benefit from her intelligent and practical advice.
I purchased 6 copies to give to family members and they have all said how much it's helped them understand the grieving process, how what they are feeling isn't abnormal, and that it's ok to feel and think anything that comes to you because it's all part of the process.
I absolutely recommend this book to anyone who's ever lost a love one or friend.